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Alien_teacherOwn, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want.
Recognise the way we treat ourselves. If we treat ourselves with respect we will be treated with respect. Likewise, if we disrespect ourselves, others will tend to do likewise. How does this look in the "real world" of human behavior?
If you want to change how other people treat you, you first have to change how you treat yourself. They will either get with the new you, or exit your life and leave room for people who are healthier to come in
You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don't. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others' behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot.

If the people in your life treat you in an undesirable way, figure out what you are doing to reinforce, elicit or allow that treatment. Identify the payoffs you may be giving someone in response to any negative behavior. For example, when people are aggressive, bossy or controlling — and then get their way — you have rewarded them for unacceptable behavior. Read more »

mind3The assumption that we all use our brains in the same way for thinking is an erroneous belief that has led to a confusion of people ‘s competencies and to difficult relationships.
We’ve been told that some people are smart and others aren’t, that some of us learn easily and others don’t.
The cultural tendency is to use labels for people such as stupid, slow, crazy, incompetent, disorganised shy, and weird.
Many scars we still carry as adults originate from these same labels laid down in childhood.
The fact is -  each of us has different ways of being smart and focused, or conscious, Read more »